With so many bridal occasions for just one wedding, it’s only common that a guest be confused as to how many gifts to bring to which occasion. On the other hand, it can be confusing for a bride too! Should she send multiple thank-you cards? Signature Grand Weddings has the insides and outs of wedding gift etiquette.
It’s OK to send Thank-You cards within a year’s time: FALSE! Thank you notes should always be sent out promptly; within two to three weeks is ideal. Guests won’t remember what they gave you one year ago! Try to keep it sooner rather than later!
You should only send thank-you cards for the wedding, not the bridal shower: FALSE! Like any gift giving occasion, your “Thank you” in person should be followed up with a card as well. Have a friend take down the details of the gifts so that you can jog your memory when sitting down to write your cards.
Stating “No gifts” on the wedding invitations is thoughtful. FALSE. You may think your intentions are good, but you are actually not supposed to mention gifts at all on your invitation. The reason is that it is implied that without the “no gifts” notation, your guests would have been obligated to provide a wedding gift, which technically, they are not.
Maid of Honor and bridesmaids are obligated to host a bridal shower. FALSE! It may be tradition that the bridesmaids host the shower, it is not a necessity. In these times, many bridesmaids can’t afford to host a shower as well as pay for their dress and other bridal accessories. The bride is never to ask her attendants when they will be having a shower for her.
The cost of the bridal gift should be the same as the cost per head of the reception. FALSE! Each gift should not be expected to give a certain amount. Gifts are a generous token from the guests. To top it off, who would know the exact amount of cost per head at the reception besides extremely close friends? A gift should be chosen with care that it will please the recipient, not based on some imaginary equation.